chiNky tInKeRbeLL's rAnDoM rANts ...

I had this friend for 8 years, whom I met in College. She's a Filipino Chinese, the youngest in the family. Intelligent simple girl. As to this date, NO BOYFRIEND SINCE BIRTH. But according to her she has lots of crushes, and those guys broke her heart.
Hahaha! Inspite of her fickle minded attitude, this childish woman is thoughtful, sweet and had big dreams.

Remembering our college days, even though we're classmates in all our subjects we used to exchange LONG letters narrating our love story and expressing our dreams in the future. During those times, we call future as the "real world."

We had a lot in common in terms of our interest, we love magazines, travel, foods, coffee, working abroad & at the top of the list passing the CPA Board Exam. After attaining our Bachelors Degree in Accountancy 5 years ago, by profession, we both remained unlicensed Accountants and excelled in different fields.

8 years of friendship... Hmmmm... almost 9, I really know her well. Besides, she's open with her wants, her frustrations, and her dreams. Once in a while, we spent time with our other friends, going out for lunch, or coffee after work to catch things up about our life.

Just recently, she's confused and acts just like a mixed-up kid deciding to accept a job abroad with a minimal salary but after the contract she's allowed to stay a month in the US. We communicate through YM and chats while being idled at work. Myself, obviously was bemused by her repeated questions. But as I always do, I remain patient with her and gave her my friendly advice.

ME : choose what ur heart desires.

ME : i guess d salary doesn't matter to u most naman.
JOY : Mhe sbi kc, aftr 2yrz b4 g0in h0me, im al0wd to stay in u.S 1m0-yan ngpagulo s kn

ME : if dat matters to u. u have to be sure if totoo yang pag stay mo ng 1 mo. sa U.S. ?

ME : den isa-sacrifice mo ung amount ng salary para makapag stay ka lang sa US ng one month. is dat worth it?

ME : ganto ang twist jan eh. talgang ia-attract ka na pumayag dahil mag stay ka nga ng 1 month sa US pero sa sahod monthly talo ka.

JOY : Yep its true. Ganun tlga

JOY : Yeah,un nga cgro pang atrct

ME : oo kasi mababa ung sahod.

JOY : Naku, d ble, nag aply na ko s rwsentosa.Com

JOY : Mgnda daw fture ko. May bcker kc

ME : kung gusto mo talga accept. u shud have no if's and but's

ME : eh mukhang ikaw may doubts ka din eh.

ME : gusto mo na accept na ayaw mo

JOY : Hnd kc ku indpndnt. Huhu

JOY : den dat's d big problem.

JOY : Fnance manager kc ng cmpny bcker k0

ME : before u decide and dream to go abroad. u first have to fix urself. learn to be independent.

JOY : 0o nga e.

ME : no matter how influential ur backer is, if ur top problem is ur independency. gurl, it's not right for u to accept easily d job.

JOY : Maxado ako na excte.Ate d0yce and jade puro p0stive. Pushes me hard. At magng indpndnt dw aku dun. Pero alam ko, puro iyak lng gagawn ko dam

JOY : Un nga ang mlakng prob. W0rth it sna umiyak dun kung 1k d0larz e

ME : It's a good opportunity , alam ko un. Pero kaw, if talgang wla kang duda sa sarili mo. Hindi mo na ko ia-ask if tatangapin mo or hindi.

ME : Kasi kung buong buo ang loob mo and alam mong ready ka. masasagot mo na kaagad ng yes yan. without asking someone else opinion.

JOY : Yeah u r ryt

ME : Kaya, lesson with dat: U HAVE TO LEARN TO BE INDEPENDENT FIRST BEFORE U DREAM OF GOING ABROAD!

JOY : Mhe=c

ME : truth hurts, but only true friends can be cruely honest. remember that quote. galing sau yan!

ME : u shud not be sad. wat u need to do is overcome mo yang fears mo.

JOY : Sigh

Well, I assumed that I have opened up her puzzled mind.

Shifting a career is really a major decision in one's life, it's somehow a tough "yes" or "no" to be made. Leaving the life we used to have, the daily routine, the people we mingle with. Turning everything in a start, yet in a better opportunity... A better and progressive life... But independency is the state of mind, and having the control of ourselves. I think she has still to learn by it before taking the next stairs.

With her befuddled thought, I want to share this quote for her:

The more you know who you are, & what you want, the less you let things upset you.

And I guess, we just need a cup of coffee or frappe!